DISCLAIMER: Dating apps do not replace old-fashioned dating methods. You can tell more about another person’s vibe in person than on a dating profile. Proceed with caution. Results may vary.
As someone who has been on multiple dating apps after coming out of the closet (counting on both hands isn’t enough), I want to assure you that you’re not alone in how you feel. Dating sucks, especially when apps are the only way to connect with other singles. Life gets hectic, so while they might be convenient, the likelihood of connecting with a match falls flat when the other person doesn’t take it seriously.
Ladies, this article is more for the guys, but you can certainly benefit from this article, too.
Gentlemen, if you insist on using dating apps, your profile is the first impression you have with other users like me. To stand out, you’ll want to read these tips:
- Congratulations, your face has appeared on my phone. My first assumption is you’re clearly on a dating app for a reason.If you’re aren’t committed to getting to know me, delete your account now. You’re not only wasting your own time but mine also.
- Oh, looks like you skipped over writing anything in your bio. Interesting, since you clearly liked what I wrote, and yet I know absolutely nothing about you in return.
Writing nothing is about as sensible as submitting a job application without attaching a cover letter. The other person will know nothing about you and therefore won’t be interested in finding out more. Simply writing “If you want to know more about me, just ask” is not enough to start a conversation.
- Want to get my attention? Here’s the minimum your bio needs:
- What you do for a living
- Your hobbies
- Valued attributes in others
- Your ideal date (activity and/or location are helpful)Here’s what might set your profile apart from the average Joe:
- Your degree/alma mater
- Your astrological sign
- Your Myers-Briggs personality type
- Your Harry Potter house
- Your favorite Pokémon starter
- Favorite movie/TV program/comfort food
- I mean, I could go on and on and on…
- Your profile is meant to start a conversation with me. If I come across your profile, what is it that you want me to do? If you’re tired of the usual “Hey” or “How’s it going?”, why not pose a question that helps start a conversation? “What does the world need more of?” “If you had only one day left to live, how would you spend it?” “What’s your ideal Naked Sunday look like?” Thinking is sexy, and my answer might surprise you.
- You know, I’m not sure how I feel. I might be attracted to you. I just can’t get past the Snapchat filters or, worse, the sunglasses in every photo.
Ditch the filters and sunglasses. Some say the eyes are the window to your soul, so what do I receive if you’re wearing sunglasses in all your photos? What are you trying to hide? I won’t be able to see the real you and may think you’ve given up. Do me (and all other thirsty singles) a favor and have at least one photo without them. Trust me when I say your smile is your best accessory.
- If meeting in person is not on your radar, or if you think ghosting is acceptable in any shape or form, go ahead and block me. I know I’m a total catch and don’t deserve that treatment from anyone.
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