10 Texting Do’s and Don’ts to Snare Your Ideal Man by @swiperightdiary

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Texting is being used more than ever to communicate in dating.  It’s taken the lead over traditional phone calls with feisty online daters.  While texting won’t ever replace a phone call, it’s often easier and more convenient to text while at work, in public place, or even, (yes we’ve all done it) sitting on the toilet.

Texting can both increase your success, and be detrimental to your dating life, so here are some top tips for women (from a guys point of view) when considering texting your potential date.

girl sitting on a park bench and writes text message10 Texting Do’s and Don’ts to Snare Your Ideal Man

Do share your number…

Sharing your number with someone that you have exchanged emails with on dating site is essential. You have to take the plunge at some point and modern phones can now block any unwanted numbers.  If you are still concerned you can use KiK as that is user name based not number based.  A guy asking you to move to texting or phone calls is a positive move, it shows they are interested and want to getting to know you off of the dating site.

Don’t give out too much personal info right away…

Not everyone who asks for your number is a potential Jack The Ripper, that said, don’t be dumb and tell someone you just met where you live, or where you work until you meet in person.

Do embrace text as a communication tool in dating…

Initial cautiousness can be expected, but use it to progress to actually arranging a convenient time to talk on the phone and arrange a date.

Don’t get to know each other only on text…

Do not solely rely on text to get to know your potential date.  Text is very impersonal and can lead you to potentially painting a picture of someone in your mind that is far from reality.  Make sure you combine texting with actual phone calls; doing so gives you a more accurate picture of their personality, and will ensure you are more likely to succeed during a date in person.  No one wants to have the embarrassment of meeting your Prince Charming who ends up being a Hob Goblin.  Use it to your advantage.

Do ask for a couple tasteful photo’s…

You can ask for a few more normal pictures to get a better idea of their hotness rating.  Send another picture of yourself if a guy asks; to be honest some ladies profile pictures are shocking.  A request for a picture is not a request for a boob shot.  If they ask for a normal picture, do be willing to supply one as it shows they are interested but cannot be sure from the pictures they have seen what you really look like.

Don’t ask for kinky pics…

Don’t ask for a topless shot or a dick pic regardless of how many wines you’ve had; this will only open the floodgates to filth. Along the same lines, you may be tempted to reply to a request for kinky pictures.  If you haven’t even met a guy yet, this is a sure sign of their intentions to take things to the bedroom rather quickly.  Leave the kinkiness until you have decided to take things further.

Do use text to stay in touch…

Text your date with small comments if you have already established rapport such as “Have a great day”, or if you have arranged to meet, “looking forward to meeting you”.  If you haven’t spoken in a while this can maintain interest and show that you are still keen to meet.  Equally if a guy does this to you, he’s a keeper as it proves he is a good communicator and thinking about you.  Obviously if your texts go unanswered for days then you need to move on as it is also a test of their interest in meeting.

Don’t over-analyze every message…

Misunderstand meaning of texts, its far too easy to insert your own feelings be them good or bad onto a text.  If you aren’t sure of the person’s intentions or feeling behind a text, then call them.  Text is not the place for heated discussions or excessive flirting if you do not know the person well enough.  Flirting from a guy can be seen as a player move, don’t take a flirtatious comment as a bad thing, a little can mean they are attracted to you.

Do check in on the day of your date…

Text on the morning of your potential first meeting to check it’s still on.  I’ve heard from so many ladies that they have been stood up on a first date.  But when I asked them if they actually texted or called to confirm on the day they said no.  Use text to confirm locations and times.  This is a sure fire way of decreasing your chances of being left waiting in a bar for a date that was never going to happen.

Don’t Text Stalk…

This is the biggest mistake I’ve experienced in women texting me. DON’T BECOME A TEXTING STALKER.  I’ve received messages that I’ve read asking me out, then, 5 mins later receive another message saying “Ohh well then clearly you aren’t interested…” Remember just because someone has received a text, it doesn’t mean they are able to reply.  Give them time.

Texting can be a great addition to your dating tool box, use it wisely and you can greatly increase your dating experiences.  If you have any top Do’s or Don’ts for using text in dating please do share them by leaving us a comment below.

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James is a 35 year old executive and dating blogger based in London. Dating in the city has opened his eyes in ways he never imagined. Everything in his blog is based on real events. Single Gents, you are not alone, you have just as many interesting experiences and discussions as the Ladies. Like this article? Have a dilemma? Ask James http://swiperightdiaries.co.uk/ask-james/

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