I know how it feels to lose a guy. Terrible. You get this feeling in your stomach and you start to question whether or not you’re going to be alone forever. Well, you’re not. I can almost guarantee that you will not be single for the rest of your life. I can also guarantee that you’re probably making one of the most common mistakes when it comes to relationships. Don’t feel bad. We’ve all made them.
So what exactly are these top mistakes, you ask? Let me tell you.
1. You’re too clingy.
This is number one for a reason: Pretty much every girl in the world is guilty of it. I’m not necessarily saying that you can’t be clingy at any point in the relationship, but I am saying that it isn’t always the best idea to do it 100% of the time. Believe it or not, your guy doesn’t actually appreciate the 150 text messages a day wondering what he’s doing, who he’s with or when you’re going to see him. He probably also doesn’t really enjoy reading those “I love you” or “I miss you” text messages that you’re sending every five minutes. I know that sounds harsh, but it’s only because I’ve been there and seen first hand why it doesn’t work. Give him some space. I promise it will make your relationship stronger.
2. You’re a little selfish.
Okay, this is completely my go-to problem when relationships fail. Because I am, and always will be, a pretty selfish person. In small amounts, this isn’t necessarily a flaw. But from the relationship point of view, it’s kind of terrible. Sometimes he just needs you to stop worrying about yourself for a second and ask him how his day was, maybe even sit down and attempt to care about the football game he’s watching. Take an interest. They really don’t require much. Just tuck away your wants and needs for about an hour every day and I bet you’ll be golden 🙂
3. You’re moving too fast.
There are some guys who can handle a speedy relationships, but the majority of them get freaked out if you accidentally leave your toothbrush in his bathroom that one night you slept over.. Simply put, you’re pushing the relationship forward too quickly. Most of the time, this happens when the “I Love You” accidentally slips out during a late night cuddle sesh. I’ve done it. Tons of times. But I’ve started to figure out that it’s creepy and you really need to take your time with this kind of thing. Good things take time. Like. More than a week kind of time.
4. You aren’t communicating.
A good relationship is based off a solid foundation. That foundation is created by communcation. Basically, if you don’t tell him that you hate it when he leaves his socks everywhere but then explode at him out of nowhere, he probably isn’t going to understand. Guys unfortunately do no have the ability to read our minds. Not yet at least 😉 So keep the lines open and let your guy know when you need something from him!
5. You’re too good for him.
I just had to throw one positive one out there… Sometimes guys break up with us because we’re just too perfect for them. Seriously,it’s a thing. In fact, it’s probably happened to you more than once. You remember that one time when your boyfriend dumped you for no reason at all? You were literally left wondering what happened because you couldn’t see a single thing wrong. You were probably just too good for him, and that intimidated him. So, to avoid this mistake, you just have to make sure that you find someone who really is worth your time. Don’t settle just because you’re lonely. Wait for the guy who really makes you want to be a better you.
If you’ve ever experienced this issues, just know you aren’t alone. I’ve personally gone through each and every one. But hey, we live and we learn! And really, I promise you won’t be single forever. There’s a guy out there for you, it’s just about patience!
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