We’ve all been there. There’s a guy you really like, you end up at the same venue one night, one tequila slammer leads to another and next thing you know, your carefully planned outfit is strewn across the floor of the public bathroom (or something slightly more classy). Question is, now that you’ve slept together, can you still make him want you? If you really like this guy, and want to keep his attention, despite having already done the deed, there are a few key things you can do, and this is exactly how to play hard to get with a guy you’ve already slept with!
In this situation, there unfortunately lies the question: was the sex good? If it wasn’t, you’re going to have a harder time winning him over, or hope he was equally as ‘slammed’ as you were and has little memory of the debacle.
The most important thing is to be inaccessible. Do your utmost not to contact him afterwards. However, don’t leave it so long that he thinks he’s got away with a one night stand! If the ‘3 day rule’ has passed and you’ve still heard nothing, then text him as nonchalantly as you can about something completely unrelated, just to remind him you’re still there. If the sex was good, you can even cheekily hint at what happened, giving him a little reminder.
After the contact
Now that you’ve established contact (or hopefully he has!), this is where you can become unavailable. If you are texting, do NOT reply immediately. The rule is, wait longer to reply than he took. If it was 5 minutes, take 10, if it was 3 hours, take 4 and so on. Whilst conversing, it’s important to let him know that he is not the only person in your life, romantically or otherwise. How to play hard to get with a guy you’ve already slept with? Such excuses as ‘I’m seeing someone tonight’, or ‘I’m out to dinner/the movies/another classic date activity’ simply scream: I’ve got a social life, it probably involves other men, mainly not you. If he follows you on any social media, you can also use this to your advantage. Now is the time to go out and have a great time, not only will it drive him crazy, but you’ll be having fun. Everybody wins!
At this point, he will probably have made an attempt to see you again, and, although you’ve been incredibly vague, cancelling last minute, being extraordinarily busy etc., the whole point is you want to see him again. When you do, you need to look GOOD. This is the moment to wear that gorgeous new dress, pair of shoes, sexy shade of lipstick. Engage him in intelligent conversation, be funny, charming, yet with an element of mystery. Haven’t told him that you’re a brilliant rock-climber or saxophone player? These kind of surprises will keep on his toes and leave him wanting more. He’ll be dying to sleep with you all over again. And THAT, ladies, is how to play hard to get with a guy you’ve already slept with.