Most people don’t believe that they are capable of dramatically improving their social (and dating) skills. Doing it quickly is definitely out of the question for them. I disagree.
As long as you are sucking air, you can learn to master social skills.
Whether you need help with dating, public speaking, job interviews, or just talking to strangers, everyone can learn to improve.
Let’s face it, the world would be a better place if all of us learned to master our social weaknesses. More work would get done. More problems would get solved. People would generally be happier.
With this in mind, I am taking this problem on as my own personal challenge. I won’t rest until everyone who wants to change can do it. Here are a few tips:
TOP 6 WAYS TO DRAMATICALLY IMPROVE YOUR DATING SKILLS IMMEDIATELY
(1) Have a casual mindset in every dating and social situation.
This is the key to success. Too many people take themselves way too seriously. This attitude leads to tension and prevents you from being able to relax and be yourself. Even if things do go horribly wrong, it likely won’t be the end of the world.
(2) Stop trying to impress.
This is where a lot of people go wrong when it comes to dating. Movies and television have mislead people into thinking that the best way to get a date is to impress somebody and try to win them over. Booooo. This strategy only works in the short term (if that). A light compliment might be okay for an ice breaker, but don’t be a kiss up. Good grief.
(3) Slow down.
Walk a little more slowly. Talk a little more slowly. Just slow down in general. People say that confidence is the best way to be attractive. I disagree. If you try to fake too much confidence then you will wind up looking like an idiot. I say that comfort is the answer. A lot of singles strike out with people that they are interested in because they can’t be comfortable when they are around them. Few things are less attractive than a person who isn’t comfortable. Slowing down will help get you in the right mindset.
(4) Be real. Say what you mean. Mean what you say.
There is no need to trick anyone. Be a person of integrity. There is enough bs in the world already. Don’t add to the pile.
(5) Embrace your fears.
If you are single and trying to get dates, you are almost guaranteed to feel at least a little fear. Realize that it is normal and don’t freak out so much about everything. Fear can be overcome. Most successful people have overcome it in some way or another.
(6) Increase your failure rate.
If you are single and you aren’t turned down occasionally then you aren’t trying enough. Increase your failure rate and you will know that you are giving yourself the best chance for success. This does not mean that you should try to fail, only that you should take enough risks to make failure a possibility. Nobody is successful 100% of the time. If you haven’t had a date for a while, maybe you have been playing it too safe.
Improve yourself. Improve the world.
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