One of the hardest parts of dating is dealing with people who send mixed messages. You know, the guy who seems really excited to run into you at the supermarket and suggests you have dinner. But then when you text to follow up, he goes dark. Or the girl who seems likeshe’s crazy about you for three weeks and then suddenly seems just plain crazy. And when you ask if everything is all right, she says, “I’m fine,” even though the air around her could form glaciers.
Mixed Messages can be infuriating to deal with. You never know where you stand, you never what they’re really feeling and you never know what they really want. So, why bother? If you’re dealing with someone who gives you mixed messages, ask yourself, “Why am I settling for this confusion? Aren’t I worthy of being with someone who is comfortable enough with themselves to be straightforward with me?”
But if you’re determine to over analyze and look for the “why,” here are some reasons someone may be giving you mixed messages:
1. The person you’re dating is not that into you.
Let’s face it, unless there is an emergency, someone who cancels on you two hours before a date is not that crazy about you. A person who is really into you would be afraid of losing you and afraid of letting you down. A person who flakes on you doesn’t care.
2. They are not emotionally healthy.
Telling someone everything is “fine,” while staring daggers at them is not an act of an emotionally healthy person. It’s manipulative, at the least, and a sure sign that your date may not be able to communicate well.
3. That person is testing you.
People sometimes send mixed messages to see how far they can push you. After having sex, someone may disappear just to see if they can they can push you so far into the booty zone that you find yourself wondering what happened to real dates. Or someone who stands you up might do so just see if you still call them a couple days later.
Whatever the reason, mixed messages are a good signal of when to stop dating someone. Don’t put yourself through hell for someone who may not have the best intentions or may not be emotionally ready to date.
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