Whenever I ask if long distance relationships work, the naysayers sound off serious “no’s,” shake their heads and roll their eyes. But personally, I have seen amazingly long distance relationships, from Sydney to LA, Toronto to LA and LA to PA flourish and result in marriages for all three couples.
The dating expert in me couldn’t help but analyze what made those super long distance relationships work. After some serious consideration, I realize my friends’ success in love comes down to these things:
They’re Confident People.
We all know how sexy confidence is. But beyond the sexy factor, confident people succeed because it doesn’t occur to them to that they might fail. So when Kelly and George fell in love during Kelly’s visit to LA, it didn’t occur to them that their love wouldn’t be able to span the globe. They just moved forward with the relationship.
They Have Their Own Lives.
One of the reasons Jenny and Frank were able to manage their distance from Pennsylvania to LA was because they both had very full lives. Because they’re both entrepreneurs and philanthropists, they didn’t have a lot of time to wallow in sadness over each other’s absence. Instead they worked hard at their individual goals and cheered on each other’s successes.
They Don’t Need Each Other.
As much as Suzie and Brad loved being around each other and wanted to spend time together, they didn’t need each other. When partners need each other for emotional or financial support, cross continental distances will only hasten the destruction of a long distance relationship.
They Chose Each Other.
Yes, we experience feelings of love, but ultimately, loving someone is a choice. Just like in any relationship, you make daily choices to let your partner know they are heard, loved and important. My friends’ long distance relationships worked because they chose to make them work.
So, before you go diving into a long distance relationship, consider what made long distance love work for these couples and ask yourself if you and your partner have similar qualities and show comparable commitment. If so, cheers to your long distance love affair!