Now that Kimye have “given birth,” I thought I revisit an article addressed to the legal father of her child, Kim Kardashian’s husband Kris Humphries – after all they are still married, and that’s what the statute says. #justthemessenger
This note to Kim Kardashian’s Husband Kris Humphries was the first of five in my “Celebrity Love Note” in the series. I hope that you take my assessment of these high-profile situations and realize we can all do better.
I truly believe that you thought Kim was the one for you, and for that, my heart goes out to you. Kris, you missed some BIG clues that this wasn’t the union for you. While we overlook many things in the name of love, you needed to realize that Kim wasn’t ready for a long-term relationship, let alone a marriage. My thought is that learning about her first marriage isn’t the only thing that made you question this relationship, but since the wheels were in motion, you just kept moving forward.
I never saw that Kim was your best friend, or that you truly liked her, and while it’s easy for me to say these things now, I am sure that in hindsight you are now probably saying the same things, and more.
When a relationship ends, both people are at fault, so it’s not all about what Kim Kardashian did or didn’t do. I fault you for not heeding the signs that said this relationship wasn’t viable and for not doing what was best for you.
If Kim Kardashian’s Husband Kris Humphries Was My Client
If Kris Humphries was my client, we’d have to develop a plan to help him realize the criteria for a healthy relationship. In the midst of this, I wouldn’t let him date for at least the next 6-9 months, because he has to heal from this loss. As I have told you, breakups are like deaths, and we have to take time to mourn that loss. My goal as Kris’ relationship coach would be to make sure that he doesn’t become someone who is bitter and closed to the possibility of true love.
What We Can All Learn From This
We have to do our homework on the people that we allow into our lives, and even more homework when we’re considering marriage.
We must stop settling! Consider any relationship/marriage like a business merger, and the cardinal rule of mergers (per “The Business of Dating“) is that we don’t join forces with any company who doesn’t make us stronger, better or wiser.
The story of Kris Humphries and Kim Kardashian should show you exactly what happens when we ignore the signs – neon red flags, if you will.
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