You’re wrapping up your first date with a new love-interest and good news…. the date couldn’t have gone any better! Conversation was flowing, the chemistry between the two of you was amazing, and you were already planning your second date halfway into the first. There’s just one major thing standing in the way of date #2….the first goodnight kiss. This moment can cause a ton of anxiety and can potentially be the difference between a good date and a great date. To get through the first date kiss successfully, remember these first kiss tips:
1. Ask your date for a kiss or tell your date that you’d like to kiss them (optional). This can be super awkward, but it’s a sure fire way to get the ‘go-ahead’ from your love-interest without risking them turning their head or backing away from your kiss if they aren’t interested.
2. Gently touch your date’s arm, hand, face, or neck before going in for the kiss. This gentle touch sends a signal to your love-interest that you are prepping to go in for a smooch; think of it as a non-verbal ‘heads-up’. This gentle touch can also make both you and your love-interest feel more relaxed in the moment by making your love-interest feel safe.
3. Start out slow and soft and see how your love-interest reacts…don’t be overly aggressive. If you go in for the kiss and your love-interest leans towards you, kisses you back or touches your arm, neck, face, etc while kissing you, you could slowly take things up a notch. Only go a step further if your love-interest is an active and willing participant.
4. End the kiss with a hug or a kiss on the cheek. After the first kiss is complete, there can be a moment of awkwardness after you pull away from each other. A hug or kiss on the cheek afterwards is like a period at the end of a sentence. It will comfort your love-interest and make him or her feel good about your first kiss and be the perfect ending to a great kiss and a great overall date.
If your love-interest hesitates, moves away from you, or turns their head during your first kiss attempt, he or she may not be into the whole kissing thing for one reason or another. It is possible that they didn’t feel the chemistry that you felt, but if the date went great, he or she may be hesitant about the kiss because they want to take things slow. If you are into him or her, be sure to ask them out again in a timely manner. If he or she says ‘Yes’ to a second date, there is some level of interest. They may have not wanted to kiss you on the first date because they want to get to know you better, they are obtaining from different kinds of affection early on, or even something as simple as they got nervous and didn’t know what to do. Remember, you are still getting to know each other. Early kisses will get easier as things progress and you go on more dates. Until you and your love-interest are totally comfortable with each other, follow these steps to minimize any kissing awkwardness. Happy smooching!
Erin ‘The Dating Advice Girl’