Alright guys, full disclosure. This post wasn’t always going to be called ‘Homewrecker to Housewife?’ Instead it was going to be called ‘Can you turn a Hoe into a Housewife?’ But, after careful consideration I decided that until the day I’m hired to write for a hip hop site it is not yet socially acceptable to name my blogs after a Ludacris song… Plus, I don’t think it’s appropriate to call your demographic a ‘Hoe’ as an opener.
I know that none of the dreaded ‘H’ words are particularly pleasing to hear, but its almost impossible to write a title that fits with the theme of this blog and keep it under 70 letters! So before you start sharpening your pitchforks, give me a chance to explain. Today I am going to talk about the transition from Homewrecker to Housewife and try to answer a question that I have wondered all too many times;
Can a relationship that began while one of the parties was committed to another person ever go the distance?
Maybe you want to know because you hate the idea of someone who willfully caused you so much pain continually dodging the karma that is bound to catch up with them some day. Or maybe you are a dreaded ‘Homewrecker’ and you’re starting to fret that the old saying ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’ is about to be transferred onto your own relationship.
Yes, you can go from Homewrecker to Housewife – IF
The chances are that he is unlikely to cheat because in you he has finally found his equal; you are both similar people who put your happiness ahead of others feelings and maybe even ahead of logic.
You share both your most positive traits with him; passion, enthusiasm and the ability to see a situation through non-judgmental eyes. But you also share you most negative traits; you’re both impulsive, childish and maybe a little self-centered.
You’ve got your man, but now you need to consider – Does he bring out the best in you?
No, you can’t go from Homewrecker to Housewife – BUT
Maybe you can genuinely justify what you were doing, maybe you never wanted to hurt anyone and maybe you truly believed his wife or girlfriend was akin to the wicked witch of the west.
But the problem is that, eventually, you will be filled with those little pangs of guilt and regret. Those pangs will cause some cracks and whether or not he cheats again won’t really matter because the threat will always be strong enough that you will never feel entirely secure.
In this case, whether the choice is his or yours, it looks like the two of you are heading for splitsville.
But don’t be too upset, sure you lost your man, but you managed to keep your morality!