Is there such a thing as a soulmate? Yes. Well, that’s good news. But here’s even better news. There is not just one lonely soul out there waiting to find you. There are thousands, maybe even hundreds of thousands that will fit the bill for what you believe may be your soulmate.
But how can this be?!? You have been inundated over centuries of romantic lore that you all have that one perfect person that you must find to make your lives complete – the “love of your life.” It has been written in books, plays, made into movies and hammered into your skulls that you all have that one chance, that one shot at perfect happiness. You must seek out and nab the other half of your heart and you only have one chance at…
Finding Your Soulmate
Well, my friends, as is with most commonly believed romantic notions, this is a crock of horse poop. Seriously, think about it for a moment. There are over 7 billion people on this planet. Knock half of them out as the same sex as you, 3.5 billion. Then let’s just randomly knock out another half that are not in your category as single, we are at 1.75 billion. And just for whatever reason, let’s drop another half, just because. We are still looking at over 800 million possibilities. Aw, Hell, let’s just go ahead and slice that number in two. Now you have over 400 million possible soulmates out there. Pretty good odds indeed.
You may argue that, (in this incredibly scientific breakdown) though the numbers are great, there is still only one that will match you perfectly. And that would be a foolish argument indeed. Ask yourself honestly, how many times have you found someone that you thought could most certainly be soulmate material? I’m willing to bet many times. But for some reason, it did not work out. The timing was not right, you weren’t in a good place, or there was just that certain something that didn’t fit. You will tell yourself that they just weren’t your soulmate. But you have to be honest with yourself and realize that with a very minor tweak in the situation, they might have been perfect for you.
Some of you, like me, may have even found your soulmate and started a life together, only to have it all fall apart. You find yourself cold and alone with little hope of happiness, till one day another soulmate pops into your life and brings you back from the brink. Now is this one your soulmate or was the first one, and you just screwed it up? Or maybe they screwed it up. Either way, you were convinced that they were the one. Had things gone a different way, you would have been fully wrapped up with your one and only soulmate. The first one, I mean.
Or, God forfend, the one you love is taken from you and you are left alone, heartbroken. Will you seek another eventually? Probably. Will they be the one, or was it the first one that sadly passed away? These are the kinds of questions that you can rationalize all you want after the fact ad nauseam, but it will not change the reality that…
You Have Many Chances at a Soulmate
The romantic notion of there being only one, is not only ridiculous, but it’s damaging. This belief can lead to despair and hopelessness. I have been there and I know. And then I found someone better![quote align=”right” color=”#999999″]There isn’t only one soulmate out there for you. Just because you lost one doesn’t mean another won’t come along.[/quote] Another problem with this “one and only” notion, is that it puts all the onus on fate, or the other soulmate, but never squarely where the true issue lies. With you. When bad things happen and you lose the one you love for whatever reason, do you give up? Sadly, some do, but most of you fight on and believe that you simply did not find your soulmate. But you did, at least, find ONE of them. So now you are back on the prowl. That means there is another opportunity at a soulmate for you. The real question now is, are you soulmate material?
Are you ready for the only one you believe is out there for you? Have you done the internal work that makes you a strong candidate? You will meet the perfect person many times over the course of your life, but you may not be ready for it. Lincoln said, “I will prepare myself and someday my chance will come.” If you are not preparing yourself, you will miss the soulmate opportunities as they whiz by you almost daily. But he further stated, “Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.” This is your cue to work on your tools before you can find that perfect soulmate.
Ready yourself! Work on bettering yourself in all areas so that when that next perfect soulmate strolls by, you will recognize that it is an opportunity, a chance, but not the only chance at happiness. Life is full of happiness and love, if you are able to see it. If you have been knocked down, let this realization of abundant soulmates buoy you up and keep your head above water. Breathe deeply and relax. Focus on the one thing that you can improve, yourself. Get to work, and do it quickly. The faster you improve, the sooner your next soulmate will arrive. Happy hunting.