Maybe you haven’t been out on an official date in awhile. Maybe you’re just a little bit rusty and you need to brush up on your skills before you put yourself back out on the dating scene. Like most things in life, if you want to succeed, it’s important to practice be prepared for potential scenarios. So get out there, grab a friend, and go on a practice date so that you’ll be ready for the real thing. Here are some things for you and your friend to focus on during your practice date to prepare you for your upcoming real date.
HAVE SOME INTERESTING TOPICS OF CONVERSATION PREPARED
Have a list of potential topics of conversation at your disposal. Try to break out of your usual conversational comfort zone on your practice date with your friend so that you’ll be ready to discuss a ton of different topics on your real date. A short lull in conversation is normal, but you can do your part to make sure that you have a multitude of interesting things to talk about on your date to avoid an extended lull. It’s important to have a mental list of a variety of topics in case the conversation isn’t flowing with your date in regards to a specific subject.
*NOTE: If you aren’t interested in chatting about the same subject matter on your real date, that could help you decide whether or not there will be a second date. Having said that, make it your goal to have an enjoyable first date regardless.
ASK YOUR PRACTICE DATE TO MAKE THINGS A LITTLE HARD FOR YOU
Ask your practice date to throw you a few curve balls during your night out so that you’ll be prepared for anything during your real date. Maybe he or she can amp up or tone down their personality a bit so that you can see what it may be like to deal with either a mellow date or a hyper date. Maybe your friend takes a phone call during your practice date. How would you handle that during a real date? Treat your practice date as a test run so that you are better prepared for anything out of the ordinary on your real date.
ASK YOUR PRACTICE DATE FOR FEEDBACK
Were you too fidgety? Did you ask weird questions? Was your body language misleading or standoffish? Simply ask your practice date what things you could do to improve your date-night demeanor. Oftentimes we aren’t aware of our date-night behaviors because we rarely ask for feedback. This is your opportunity to get feedback from someone you trust. Don’t take any suggestions personally. These suggestions are only meant to help you. Take this feedback and use it to make yourself better on real dates.
Of course your practice date with a friend will go smoothly because you already know each other, but it’s also a fun way to get back into the dating mindset the get rid of some of the nerves attached to an upcoming date. With dating, just like anything else, practice makes perfect!
Hugs and love,
Erin ‘The Dating Advice Girl’