Immediately after a break up, when you’re heartbroken, you don’t really know what to do. You have all these emotions inside and it’s hard to say if it’s about love or hate at this point. Take the time after a break up to focus your energy on something positive.
Your life may seem like it”s over and that you’ll never love again but that’s just not the case. Think of it as, you just bought a first-class ticket to ride on the love train once again but this time, you’ll be prepared. Now you’ll have the wisdom that this last relationship has just given you, and you will be stronger because of it.
Immediately after a break up, remember the 3 R’s
Right about now, you might be thinking it’s time to look for a “Rebound” relationship but no. That’s not an “R” I’m referring to. A rebound is definitely not what you want to look for immediately after a break up, especially when you have a broken heart.
The first “R” means it’s time to Review
Take a look at what just happened with your last relationship. Go over the things you liked about it and the person you were with. Then review the things you didn’t like about the last relationship. Doing a review like this will guide you towards finding a relationship containing more of the good qualities, while also helping you to steer away from those bad qualities you don’t care for.
The next “R” represents hitting Reset
This might not come easy, but I want you to just “hit reset” in your brain. This means forgiving the person who just broke your heart. I’m not saying forget what happened, but there is no need to carry a grudge with you and make your next relationship pay for what happened in the last one. So hit that reset button in your mind and forgive them. You’ll feel better moving forward when you’re not carrying it with you and nothing good will come from being bitter.
The last “R” stands for Reflection
It’s never 100% one person’s fault when there’s a break up situation. You need to also look at the things that you did, or how you allowed yourself to be treated, and acknowledge how you may have contributed to what went wrong. Never blame the other person for everything. The healthy way is to take some time to reflect a little before you start dating again and try to learn from your mistakes so they wont be repeated in your next relationship.
The party is not over after a break up, it’s just beginning again
If you find yourself taking it really hard after a break up and you just don’t know where to turn to, contact me for coaching. We can work through the 3 R’s together and get you started with a new plan to find your true love.
A better relationship is right around the corner, and it’ll be even more in line with what you are looking for if you take this time to work through the 3 R’s.
If you recently just got through a break up and want to tell us how you moved past the heartache, leave a comment below.