There are three common dating mistakes that are causing you to be chronically lonely and single. Watch out for these pitfalls, and you too can find Mr. Right!
Dating Mistake #1: Always Expecting a Man to Pay
As the waiter places the check on the table, you lean back and think, “He’s the man. He should pay for the date.” This attitude is outdated and tends to be a major turn-off for men. Yet many women continue to believe that a man should always pay, especially on a first date. A man wants to know that you are into him, and not just into his money. When you insist that he pays for you, you appear shallow, demanding, and greedy. This type of attitude is not attractive to men.
What you should do: It’s best to pull out your purse, and at least offer to pay half. This shows that you are not just with him to get a free meal. It also makes you appear considerate and self-assured. When you do this, the man might decline your offer to pay, but he will still appreciate that you wanted to in the first place.
Dating Mistake #2: Suppressing Your Sexual Energy
He leans in to caress your leg, and you move away. Women tend to think unless a guy knows and likes them first, they should not get physical with him. Avoiding contact and suppressing your sexual energy tends to give him the message that you are not interested. Being stand-offish and cold is not going to make a man want to get to know you better. I’m not saying that you have to sleep with every guy you date., but unless you show some sexual interest in him (touching, kissing, flirting), he will interpret your [lack of] actions to mean that you are not attracted to him.
What you should do: Be comfortable with yourself as a sexual woman! Your sexual energy is a part of you, so don’t suppress it. You can get to know him on an intellectual level, have great conversations, and whatever other non-physical activities you like, but don’t hesitate to get physical too.
Dating Mistake #3: Showing up Late or Being Flakey
You can’t find the shirt you wanted to wear, you’re not feeling especially outgoing, you lose track of the time, you misplace something… and you show up late. Being late or cancelling at the last minute tells a man that you do not respect him or his time. If he is still willing to see you after this, it is only because he’s hoping for some sex or he has very low self esteem. He will most likely not consider taking you seriously. A man will usually lose interest in a woman who is inconsistent and flakes on him repeatedly.
What you should do: Respect your date’s time. If you expect that you will be late, call to let him know as soon as possible. If you will not be able to make it, plan another time to meet– and make sure you are there when you say you will be!