It’s Not Ok to Fart in Front of Your Lover by @JillianDates

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Its not ok to fart in front of your lover 292x300 Its Not Ok to Fart in Front of Your Lover by @JillianDatesI recently watched a video called, “Breaking the Barrier”, which examines at which point in a relationship it becomes ok to fart in front of your lover. Although, obviously intended to be humorous, it got me thinking about how couples degenerate from being polite and trying to impress each other when they first begin dating, to taking each other for granted and treating each other disrespectfully. This disrespect, commonly manifested as the belief that it’s ok to fart in front of your lover, could be one of the reasons why our divorce rates are so high in the U.S.  These thoughts prompted me to write a blog post called, “Keeping the Romance Alive: It’s Not Ok to Fart in Front of Your Lover” on Dating Disasters and Delights. I know many people think that it’s actually a sign of relationship success that you have reached the point where you feel it’s ok to fart in front of your lover, but, I think that this level of comfort is quite dangerous and may precipitate an eventual break-up.

 

Why it’s NOT ok to fart in front of your lover:

Farts are natural. Farts are unavoidable. Farts are funny. Farts are also uncontrollable sometimes.  I get that.  But, there’s also a reason why, as a society, we’ve been taught that there are appropriate times and places to fully relax, and times and places where good manners are key.  So, I maintain that it’s not ok to fart in front of your lover purposely, indiscriminately, and tactlessly.

When we first start dating, we are always on our best behavior, not only because this is what is expected of us in civilized society, but because we are trying to impress the object of our desire.  I posit that one of the reasons why it is so difficult to maintain a healthy relationship is because we lose that impetus to impress our lovers.  We take them for granted. We disrespect them. We fart on them.

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Jillian is an expert at sticking her foot in her mouth, falling down whenever she tries to do anything remotely physically challenging, and pissing people off by constantly correcting their grammar. She has an irrational fear of allowing the shower curtain to touch her and refuses to share her movie popcorn with her dates. She is ever the optimist that love is waiting just around the corner and writes about her search for Mr. Right on "Dating Disasters and Delights".

50 Comments

  • Reply March 29, 2013

    Jeff La Flair II

    Love it Jillian! Always a blast to read your blogs. Can’t wait for more!!!!

  • Reply March 29, 2013

    Jeff La Flair II

    And sometimes that first one just comes out. Nothing you can do but hope she really loves you!

    • Reply March 29, 2013

      Dating Disasters

      For sure… Accidents happen. Just make sure you always respect each other, and she will certainly still love you!

  • Reply March 29, 2013

    Christopher Ganley

    Another great blog! More please!!!

  • Reply March 29, 2013

    Dating Disasters

    For sure… Accidents happen. Just make sure you always treat each other with respect, and she will certainly still love you!

  • Reply March 29, 2013

    Joanne Bellino

    Love it Jillian! Although I don’t think “farting in front of your lover” is a reason of divorce, I feel even though something as “gross” as that…if you can’t be comfortable enough to do something you sometimes can’t control, (especially as you get older), than you will never be comfortable in your relationship! Idk…I’m no relationship expert just my opinion…xo

    • Reply March 29, 2013

      Dating Disasters

      True, Joanne! It certainly happens… I’m talking more about the purposeful disrespect and/ or taking each other for granted that happens. I mean, comfort with your partner is what it’s all about! Thanks so much for reading!

  • Reply March 29, 2013

    Tracy

    I love jillians blog, very funny, but so true. My lover and I fart infront of eachother and I can really see the difference in terms of respect. No more! For now on, we will releave ourselves in private.

    • Reply March 29, 2013

      Dating Disasters

      Nice, Tracy! Let me know if it makes either of you feel more respected and appreciated.

  • Reply March 29, 2013

    Melissa

    True stuff! My husband doesn’t fart though….he’s a perfect a**hole! Just kidding. I still get embarrassed when the “one cheek sneak” happens in front of my husband and we’ve been married more than 20 years!!

    • Reply March 29, 2013

      Dating Disasters

      Its amazing, isn’t it? That even after so many years, there are just some things that should stay private! Thanks for reading!

  • Reply March 29, 2013

    Andy Levane

    Love your writing Jillian, keep them coming!

  • Reply March 29, 2013

    Gina

    I Enjoy ReadIng All Of Your Blogs! I Can Say Guilty On This One But I Am Putting An End To It!!

    • Reply March 29, 2013

      Dating Disasters

      Thanks Gina! Let me know if it makes a difference in your relationship!

  • Reply March 29, 2013

    Francine

    It is NOT ok! My ex thought it was funny. Not once in 5 years did I letter rip! Lol

    • Reply March 29, 2013

      Dating Disasters

      Exactly, Francine! If we can control ourselves, so can they! Thanks for reading.

  • Reply March 30, 2013

    Kerri

    I was never for the under the covers trick. Nor do i find it attractive in any means. I agree Jillian i think men should control themselves like women do! Also making yourself fart to make a flame come on now you cant truly say your a man or think that would really impress us. Tell me when that is ever going to become usefully!

    • Reply March 30, 2013

      Dating Disasters

      Oh my goodness, Kerri!I know exactly what you mean. Not impressive, in my opiopinion. Thanks for reading!

  • Reply March 30, 2013

    Boston Single Girl

    Love, love, LOVE this post!!! It’s so true that once we are comfortable in a relationship, and let our guard down, we get lazy. This laziness often transforms into disrespect, sometimes unintentional, sometimes not. Basic hygiene (not shaving your legs ladies), grooming, taking care not to look slovenly,etc are important. Great post!!

    • Reply April 1, 2013

      Dating Disasters

      I love how you put it: it IS laziness, and disrespect is disrespect, intentional or not. Thank you for reading!

  • Reply April 1, 2013

    Jacky

    HAHAHA loved this one….totally agree. NOT OK….

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  • Reply April 2, 2013

    Nicole

    So true! A few friends and i were just talking about this recently and we all agreee with youu on this one! Love your posts! :)

  • Reply April 2, 2013

    Troy

    Articulate and well written… however, if your significant other fires the first shot, retaliation is more acceptable, in my humble opinion.

    • Reply April 2, 2013

      Dating Disasters

      Ah! Troy, that’s a new angle I’ll need to explore. Thanks for the idea!

  • Reply April 2, 2013

    Whammy

    Great article cuz!

  • Reply April 3, 2013

    JY Blind

    I never understood when people claim they couldn’t control it. Might need to exercise those muscles way down there ;)

    • Reply April 4, 2013

      Dating Disasters

      Haha! Some kegels, or benoit balls might help… Oh wait, that’s for a different problem, haha!

      • Reply April 6, 2013

        JY Blind

        Hey you’re on to something there. Maybe some butt puckering. CLINCH AND RELEASE AND CLINCH AND RELEASE!

        • Reply April 8, 2013

          Dating Disasters

          Sounds too much like working out! I’m entirely too lazy. Maybe I could get Jane Fonda or Richard Simmons to make a video!

          • April 9, 2013

            JY Blind

            Richard would be more than happy to do that video. That was bad—Sorry Mr. Simmons.

    • Reply April 11, 2013

      Lawrence

      Hey, sometimes you can’t control it! Like getting out of a car.

      I am also a certified gym trainer and I was helping someone pass an exam and he asked me to hold his legs so that he could do sit-ups Every time he started his sit-up, he let out a loud one!

      • Reply April 13, 2013

        JY Blind

        Good-ness! I hope he passed that exam for both of your sakes. I guess some folks just have looser booty-holes than other do.

  • Reply April 6, 2013

    Dorothy Malone

    Your topics on relationships get right down to what matters. Great writing!

    • Reply April 8, 2013

      Dating Disasters

      It’s so easy to get caught up in nonsense and excuses in relationships. I try to break it down to basics. Maybe someday I’ll even follow my own advice!

  • Reply April 7, 2013

    Dirty In Public

    Awesome post, @twitter-402791280:disqus! Definitely made for an incredible #SWEXPERTCHAT ;)

    • Reply April 8, 2013

      Dating Disasters

      Thanks! It was an awesome #SWEXPERTCHAT… No topic is off-limits!

  • Reply April 9, 2013

    Women Escorts

    Amazing topic and read such discussion first time on relationship…it’s really so indiscriminately!

    • Reply April 9, 2013

      Dating Disasters

      Haha! I might need some translation to understand exactly what you said, but, I think you liked my article, so…. Thanks!

  • Reply April 11, 2013

    Lawrence

    Here is an interesting anecdote. I was working in Turkey in the year 2000 when it was still a moderate country and I was asked to create a Fax server so that the computer could send faxes automatically. I was young and bored and so decided that each time the server sent a fax it would play a different fart sound. I had a loop of about 30 different sounds. I was one of the few people allowed into the server room.

    At about 1am, I got a frantic call in Turkish from the guard who informed me that I need to come back to the office urgently. My Turkish was not so good and it is more difficult to understand over the phone and from someone who was in stress, so I rushed over.

    He told me that someone was locked in the server room and needed to go to the toilet. I asked him how he knew and he said “Listen to him farting.”

    I packed out laughing. Serves me right for playing around.

    • Reply April 19, 2013

      Dating Disasters

      Omg! That is hysterical! I’m happy to know that the security guard was so concerned for the farter’s well-being!

  • Reply April 23, 2013

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