Happy New Year Guys! So I have been getting a lot of questions on gay flirting and making the first move. Well, today is your lucky day because I am going to let you in a few of my secrets that will not only get his attention, but also create a curiosity to leave him wanting more.
1. Lock Eyes With Your Target
It amazes me how many gay guys have a problem looking into another gay guy’s eyes while flirting with him. Maybe it’s shyness, maybe it’s a fear of rejection… who knows. Whatever the case is, this is a very important step because it’s the jump off point to creating a visual connection.
What to do: Make eye contact and hold it just a little bit longer than you would with anyone else. The 3 second rule applies here. Don’t hold your gaze for longer than 3 seconds or it will creep the hell out of him. Break your gaze and then look over at them again. The goal is to get his attention and connect. Read his body language and if you catch him looking back at you… Then it’s game on.
2. Break The Ice
Now that you have his attention, you should be thinking of ways to break the ice and start a conversation with him.
What to do: Be aware of your surroundings and his. Slyly size him up for clues as to what his interests are. This should be easy depending on where you are. If that fails, look for positive things that stand out about him or his actions. Use it to make your introduction. Ask him his name and get the conversation going.
WARNING: Do not discuss religion, politics, sex or past relationships. Keep the conversation light and easy going. The conversation should be two-sided so make sure you are actively listening to what he is saying.
3. Body Language
It has been said that a large percentage of human communication is done through posture, gestures, facial expressions and other movements. No matter what we are expressing verbally, our body language sends subconscious signals to everyone we interact with. Use it to your advantage.
What to do: Make sure your body language compliments your words and your intent. This means stand up straight and poke your chest out to show confidence. Lean into the conversation and tilt your head to show that you are interested in what he is saying. Most importantly, smile damn it!
4. Your In, Now Get Out!
Alright, now this one is a biggie and you’re probably thinking “what in the hell..?” Remember I said to keep the conversation light and easy going? There is a reason for this because now you are going to make your exit. This is going to create some mystery and make him want to know a little more about you.
Long conversations with strangers can become boring and just a tad bit awkward because the longer you talk, the less you have to discuss in the future. Keeping it brief will ensure you don’t say the wrong thing and also keep you from being a motor mouth.
What to do: Your conversation with him should last no more than 5 minutes. Simply say “it was a pleasure to meet to meet you, but I have to get going.” Ask him would he like to exchange numbers and if he agrees, ASK PERMISSION to give him a call later that evening. It shows you are respectful of his time and he will most likely say “YES.”
There you have it! 4 Tips to help you get your gay flirt on and make the first move. Not only have I taught this technique to my clients, but I have personally used them. Practice makes perfect but once you get the hang of it, you will notice these flirts will convert to more dates.
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