Many people that I have spoken to debate whether 2012 was a good year or not. For many the jury is still out. For me I had an interesting year which I will tell you about. Instead of showing you my funny side, I decided to show you my sensitive side.
The end of 2010 was an awful year for me. I had met someone who I thought to be my soulmate and she turned round to me and said, “Sorry my parents will not allow me to continue our relationship.” I was devastated as I really loved this girl. I really thought she was my soulmate but I fully believe that soulmates are destined to be together. Personally I think she got cold feet and in retrospect, maybe we were not really soulmates. But what do I know, I am a male. But the incident got me out of a rut and I rekindled my dating misadventures and actually managed to write a book about them which I called “Kill Me Now!” which as some of you know, was voted the best dating book of 2012. I realized that you have to look for the funny side of things. As Monty Python sing, “Always look on the bright side of life!”
2011 ended badly for me as well. For many years, I was my mother’s caregiver and supporter. She was ill for quite a while and I looked after her. When the time comes for me to change diapers, I already know what to do as I did the same for my mother and worse. My poor mother died in my arms at the end of 2011.
So I thought that 2012 would start off well, but I had spent all my savings making life easy for my mother and because I could not pay rent, I found myself kicked out of my home of 20 years and almost living on the streets. Try dating in this environment. But as Jackie Chan said, “When life knocks you down, you can chose whether to get up or not,” and so I did.
I found an apartment which I could afford and started again and started dating. When you go on a first date, the idea is to not show how screwed up you are. When you dress for success people will believe you are successful. Half way through 2012 I met my girl. It was truly fate that the first date happened for a multitude of reasons. First of all I did not meet her jdate search filters and she did not fit my parameters, but somehow I expanded the parameters and sent her a message, along with another hundred ladies. I got numerous phone numbers but was turned off already on the first call, except for Sharon. And then we made a date. The date almost did not happen and you can read about it here.
Holding her in my arms one morning, I realized that I did not want to spend my life without her. I realized that it was just right and I proposed to her. Nothing planned and no ring. I had always said that after loosing my soulmate my next decision would be made by my brain and not my heart. I really think that my heart and my brain are at last in agreement.
So in the words of Celine Dion, “I can’t wait for the rest of my life.”
Get out and date, my friends!