You went on a date and had an OK time. Not bad. Not great. Should you go out again? I have 3 reactions on my dates:
- UGH – No way in hell will I do that again
- WOW – Oh my God, I think I met my future husband
- EH – I had a nice time but I was not blown away
For the UGH response, well that is obvious. NO 2nd date!!
The WOW response always scare me because I think the person is so perfect that therefore, there must be something terribly, terribly wrong and then I wonder if I should waste my time and emotions on finding out about all his flows. Yes, I know … I stop myself and go on a 2nd date and home he continues to WOW me. If he does not, then that is why we date
For the EH date, I reflect on the date and I consider a few things:
- Was he or I nervous?
- What is his KF?
If either of us seemed nervous or we were awkward trying to get to know each other, I try to understand that and figure that perhaps next time when we are both more relaxed; we can really open up and enjoy each other.
The KF is the Kissability Factor. I think to myself, do I really want to kiss this guy? If I am convinced I do not want to kiss him, then there is no 2nd date. If I am not repulsed by the thought and think it is possible if we really connect next time, then I will have a 2nd date.
I have been on OK first dates and the 2nd date was more relaxed and fun and I was so pleasantly surprised it actually WOW’d me. And, other times, the 2nd date was as lackluster as the first and so that ends that potential relationship.
It may take some extra time, but I feel comforted by the fact that I gave it a chance and some time. And, am walking away knowing and NOT wondering!