Women are told to be mysterious and hard to get at the beginning of dating as it can improve
their chances of bagging a prince charming. In most of the cases this is a correct advice and men are born hunters and they like challenges.
What about men’s availability? Do women like to haunt as well? Actually, numerous research proven that a hint of mystery is one of the strongest aphrodisiacs. Contrary to a popular belief, women don’t like men who serve themselves on a silver platter from the first date. We really don’t need to know straight away how charming, intelligent, strong, athletic, and rich you are. We don’t need to know that you own Lexus, Mercedes or Bentley, go to the most expensive restaurants, stay only in 5 star hotels and own 3 properties.
Create a mystery
Yes, all of the above will impress many women, especially if your only aim is one night stand. However, if you’re looking for a long-term relationship or even friendship (perhaps with benefits), you need to dose the information to create a mystery around you.
Remember though that too much of anything is not good either. The more mysterious you are and the longer you keep the veil of mystery, the more suspicious you become. Mystery proves to be effective only at the beginning stages of the relationship. I’d advice giving one information about yourself for every information you receive about your date. If your date is very open however, allow her to pour her heart out but don’t do it yourself. Rather give about 20% of the amount of information she’s giving you and end on this.
Another part of this is responding too quickly, writing or calling too often or being always available to meet. Women like to be contacted quite often at the beginning as it shows that a man really cares but make sure it won’t transfer into stalking. A little banter twice a week, a phone call every second day and one meeting a week is about right. Anything more might mean you’re very passionate about your date or are stalking her. It depends on your date’s personality what she will go for. Some women are more dependent and need more contact and other are more independent and frequent contact annoys them. Therefore, judge your dates personality and adjust your behavior accordingly and you will have more chance of developing a long-term relationship with her.
This guest post was submitted by Kate Nightingale. Click here to visit Kate’s Site.