The other day after getting home I noticed that I had a message on my answering machine. When I went to listen to it I could not believe the voice I heard, it was The Frenchman. I don’t think I can remember the last time I talked to him, the last time I heard his voice, it has to be at least 6 months since I last talked to him. But whywas he calling me? I guess that can be another story for another time. But hearing his voice is what lead me to my post for this week. Dirty Talk.
So why did The Frenchman get me thinking about talking dirty? Well lets just say the man is one of those dirty talkers who pushes his limits. There has been moments where I have been with him and all I could think “did he just say that?”. He is also one of those dirty talkers who has also pulled out the “daddy card” on more than one occasion, which usually has left me laughing.
When is Dirty Talk OK?
I guess it really depends on the person, some people are totally comfortable with it, while others are completely turned off by it, or even others are too shy and embarrassed about it. But dirty talk can be used before, during and I have even been with guys that keep it up after having sex. Personally, I have never minded a bit of dirty talk during foreplay. There is nothing more exciting when a man starts to whisper in your ear what he is going to do to you before it happens. Not only does it get your blood boiling, it also can get your mind wondering!
Dirty talk during sex can also be just as exciting, plus, for some, it can be what helps them get to that ultimate orgasm. For some people dirty talk happens more in the heat of the moment. You also have the rare guy that keeps talking after everything is over with (this is where The Frenchman comes in), I find that this maybe overdoing it a little bit. Yes, it is okay to say how great it was and all of that, but how about skipping the explicit details at this moment and wait for next time.
When is Dirty Talk Too Much?
As I have said many of times, know your audience. Usually you can tell how much a person is into it when you start by observing their body language, facial expressions and also listening to what they are telling you too. I do understand that sometimes, in the heat of the moment, that we don’t always have control over what you are saying. Take your cues from your partner, and if you hear a “what did you just say” or “excuse me” or even a little bit of laughter, you just might want to tone it down a bit.
Also, everything has its time and a place. Whispering in your girl’s ear how much you want her while she is busy, with family and/or friends, may not always be the right time. Observe what is going on around you, maybe take her to the side and tell her, or, maybe, wait until she is free from what she is doing. Pushing something on anyone is not cool.
So when it comes down to getting all hot and bothered with the dirty talk just remember a few things, not every one is into it and be aware how far you are actually taking it. But in the end have fun with it, you never know it could add that extra spark into your sex life!