Sometimes when we look at romantic comedies, we can imagine ourselves in the position of the main characters. It could be said for the movie, Jerry Maguire. The thing about romantic comedies is that there are some things that people should not say in real-life situations.
You can watch the video here: You Complete Me
“You complete me…”
Those three words made women swoon when Tom Cruise said them to his co-star Rene Zellweger in the movie Jerry Macguire. In actuality, those are the worst three words uttered from someone’s mouth to their mate… ever. In my opinion, that three word statement set back relationships about twenty years.
Sure, it’s a statement that makes one’s heart melt, and sure it’s designed to make panties melt off of someone’s body … but what is the statement really saying?
The statement is implying that one is not a complete person unless they have a mate and someone by their side. It means that you are a half of a person (three quarters, 98%, however you want to dice it up) unless there is someone who you are supposed to have and hold, love and cherish, through sickness and in heath, until death do you part. That could be the furthest from the truth. You are already a complete person.
Think of it like this. You are a bowl of ice cream… already tasty and really good. A relationship is the nuts or, let’s say, the chocolate syrup. The ice cream by itself is already a “complete” dessert if you don’t add anything to it. Whatever toppings you add to it makes the dessert a tad bit better but you can also do without it as well.
Relationships Add To Your Life, You Are Already Complete
Relationships are supposed to be designed so a person can ADD to your life not COMPLETE your life. It’s part of the reason why people are depressed because they don’t have someone in their lives. They feel that they NEED a person in order to become whole.
What happens if a person who does come into your life and they “complete you”. Then you would have nothing to strive for because your life is “complete”.
Part of the reason why breakups are so hard to deal with is because a person feels like they lost a “piece” of themselves when that person is gone, putting the onus on THEM as to the reason why YOUR life is empty.
Realize that you are already a complete person. A relationship is supposed to put joy and happiness in your life. When you find it brings you pain and agony then it’s time to move on.
The next time you hear someone say “you complete me”, run for the hills because that person is trying do whatever they can to attach themselves to you and not in a healthy way.
Finally, think about this: 1 + 1 does NOT equal ONE.