Have you ever thought it would be glamorous to date a celebrity? It seems like it would be all limos, red carpets, and general fabulousness…but you very well may be getting more than you bargained for. Though dating a celebrity sounds super exciting, you may encounter some not-so-exciting things that are different from dating a ‘normal guy’. I recently got an email from a girl new to LA who has found herself randomly dating a famous actor. Here’s her story….
Dear Dating Advice Girl,
For the past few months I’ve been dating a famous actor….let’s call him ‘LEGEND’. We met one night through mutual friends at a party. Of course he was very charming, but I just assumed he was like that with everyone. The next day a friend of mine told me that ‘LEGEND’ asked for my number and would like to take me out. I couldn’t believe it! I had just moved to Los Angeles and couldn’t believe that this kind of thing could actually happen. Long story short, he called me, we went out on a date and that date turned into 3 months of excitement! Now the hard part…I’ve been told recently that LEGEND may be dating several other people. We are not officially boyfriend and girlfriend, but I really like him and it’s literally a dream scenario. I don’t know if this is going to go anywhere, but does that mean that I should end it? I’m having fun, but it does make me feel weird that he may be dating other people…what do you think I should do?
In terms of dating, this is not that different from other dating scenarios I’ve heard. The big difference is that the person that you are seeing is known by a large percentage of the population. A lot of people, especially in the early months of dating may be dating multiple people at once, which is pretty normal before a commitment has been made. What differs between dating a celeb and dating an ‘average joe’ is the amount of attention you may receive if the two of you are seen out on the town together, the kinds of dates you may be going on depending on your love-interest’s lifestyle, and how he might treat you depending on how he feels about being famous and depending on whom else he’s seeing. There are celebs that lead very normal lives, but there are also those who may choose to use their status to get what they want and in turn may care less about what you want. If you two have been dating for 3 months, you probably have some idea of what kind of guy he is.
There is no reason to end things preemptively in this or any other dating scenario. Continue to enjoy your celeb love-interest until you are no longer enjoying the situation. It doesn’t sound like you have unrealistic expectations where this relationship is concerned. You are not exclusive, so technically he can date whomever he wants, but the same goes for you. Don’t stop your life because you’re dating someone who has a high profile. You may want to go out with someone else so that you don’t become too invested during this fun, casual, non-exclusive phase.
Keep this relationship fun, without any serious expectations and you’re sure to create a ton of fun memories. If you start wanting more, it’s time to have a talk with your guy to see if he may be interested in making you his leading lady. If he’s not into the idea, then that may be when you’ll want to make your exit and bow out gracefully. Because your guy is well known, there most likely will be a lot of ladies that will be interested in him…that doesn’t mean that he will be interested in all of them, but it’s just smart to know what you may potentially be getting into.
Remember that even though your guy is famous, he’s still just a guy. He saw something in you that he found intriguing…just be that same girl you were when you met him and enjoy what’s to come! Also, be sure to stick to your principles and don’t feel pressured to do anything you don’t want to do just because he’s famous. You deserve respect and attention too! Beyond that, have fun! A lot of girls would give anything to be in your shoes right now!
Have fun with your leading man!!
Hugs and love,
The Dating Advice Girl