We all have long work hours and demanding schedules, so how do you meet someone if you are always working? What if you meet someone interesting at work? Should you take the risk by engaging in a potentially awkward or inappropriate relationship? Here’s one single guy’s dilemma…
Dear Dating Advice Girl,
I’ve developed feelings for a colleague that is new to the company. I am in accounting and she is in HR (for a different division). I’m trying to get a sense if she likes me or not and if she knows I like her. I introduced myself to her and then after meeting her, I instantly was attracted to her.?A couple days later, I visited her in her office downstairs. For the past few days, we’ve been chatting for about 30 minutes at the end of each day. She’s only come up to my office once or twice, whereas I’ve gone down to her office a few more times. Do you think she knows I like her? Do you think she may have any interest in me? I want to ask her out on a date, but am afraid of any repercussions at work. She is at my branch for another month or so then she may be transferred to another branch. What do you think?
Work flirtations can be tough considering any wrong move could make your work life a living hell. Even though your crush may not stay at your home office, you’ll still be working there so it’s important to make sure that your office dating habits aren’t seen as inappropriate and thus could lead to a bad situation for you.
In terms of a potential relationship with your crush, since she is in an unfamiliar town for work, she may be interested in adding some social interaction into the mix. If you aren’t totally sure how a colleague feels about you, why not try asking her out for coffee or lunch? During this casual social meeting, you will get a better idea of whether or not your love-interest is just being friendly or if he or she is interested in something more romantic and less work related. If your crush wasn’t interested at all, she wouldn’t be interested in having 30 minute chats with you, so there is some level of interest on her end. Just know that she is probably aware that getting ‘too friendly’ with someone you work with can potentially cause problems, so she may be a bit tentative.
If you’re really concerned about the whole dating/working together thing, remain friends until she gets transferred again, then ask her out on an official date once she starts working at the new branch. Yes, this potentially could mean a long distance relationship, but that may be better than risking an embarrassing office scandal. Besides avoiding the water cooler gossip, you’ll also avoid potential embarrassment if she says no.
Ultimately your decision will probably depend on the intensity of the feelings you feel for your crush.If you really feel like a special relationship could develop, you may want to take things slow. Sudden, rash decisions could ruin any relationship potential that you have with your crush. Tread carefully to maximize the potential with your love-interest!
Good luck!
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