I love men. But, I hate their rampant inability to plan a date or be decisive on where to go for a date. I apologize to those few good men who have this skill! MEN, please, learn how to plan a date. If there is one social skill set that will serve you well whether you are single or married —- is your ability to plan a date.
Women Love Men Who Plan A Date!
It gets you big points. Even if the date is not perfect, you get big points for planning or the attempt to plan. If it is perfect and romantic, you have won the game.
Men love to ask a woman what she wants to do and she will say, “It doesn’t matter. Something fun or interesting.” Of course, this does not help men. Then the lack of plans linger and nothing gets decided until the last minute and then the date falls short, you lose points and the relationship may not work out.
If you put effort into your date planning skills, you will reap the reward. I just encourage men to NOT be afraid to plan a date and to be decisive about it. Especially the first few dates. Women don’t like to have to do this work, especially initially. Also, it shows you are thoughtful and creative and are willing to put the work into making it something special. And, women love to be made to feel special.
I always say, “It is the gesture that counts.” That is really big with women. Listen up men … gestures count. They don’t have to be grand or huge. Sometimes, the simplest thing can have the greatest impact. For example, if she tells you a touching story about butterflies that impacted her life or is tied with a great memory … and you do something as simple as get a card with a butterfly or get something with that theme and write a short and sweet note that it was great to hear her stories … that will play huge into a women not only liking you but falling in love with you.
Sometimes the simplest thing
can have the greatest impact.
Yes, by all means, you should ask a woman what she wants to do and see what kind of input she has. She may offer something concrete. If not, take the reins and do something. Even if a particular woman is comfortable with planning and executing a date … you as the guy need to show her that you can take the initiative and can follow through. These same women like it when someone else takes over and they don’t have to worry about one detail.
I am a person who has and can plan great dates and execute elements of surprise and creativity pretty well. But, I don’t always want to do this. I want to be wooed, taken care of, catered to and surprised.
MEN, I am going to help you on how to plan a date. Contact me if you have any questions. In the meantime, are you going on a first date? Don’t just pick the Starbucks on the corner and let her buy her own coffee. Pick a place that has meaning for you or connects with something you talked or emailed about. For example, if you both love red wine … take her to a wine tasting or a wine bar with an eclectic wine list. Or, even one of those places where they have wine by the ounce, and you can sample different types of wines. Make it fun. Plan it and take charge and be in control. Make your lady feel like she is special and you will be on your way to a 2nd date in no time!