So as most of you have probably realized, I haven’t done much dating recently and I swore off online dating. Well, guess what, I fell off the bandwagon … well just for a couple hours. I wanted to do an experiment. I wanted to create a profile that was stellar with stellar pictures and see what kind of responses I got and if men were still helpless in the singles online dating world. I was bored Friday night and I did it. What happened? Lo and behold I got over 60!! responses to my profile within a couple of hours. Wow! Never happened to me before … either there’s a shortage of women out there or I did something right!
What did I write in my profile well here it is for you:
Heading: Rub the magic lamp and make a wish!
About Me: You rubbed the magic lamp, you made a wish …and here I am. Everything your heart desires, or am I. Well, you be the judge.
My joy in life is derived from ambition … mine and others’. I am always striving to accomplish new things and that makes me happy … it also makes me happy to see others excited about what they are doing. I am a magnet to men who are ambitious and hard workers.
I love to learn new things and I always love to laugh. I have traveled all over Europe and the Caribbean and my favorite part of travelling is meeting the locals and experiencing their history. Rome is my all time favorite destination because everywhere you go you are walking in history.
In my spare time, I find the gym a great way to maintain my healthy lifestyle and relieve the tension and stress of the day. I also do a lot of writing and reading … part of my desire to be a sponge for new information. I write a lot about my experiences being single and dating.
Don’t be shy … say hi!
So they weren’t shy and said hi … among other things! I went through the responses and was appalled by what I saw on the most part. A lot of men really have NO CLUE what to write to a women. The majority just wrote “hi”, some added a “how are you” … others, well … here are my top 5 disaster responses:
5: Is your name Jackie?
4: I’d like to rub YOUR magic lamp if you know what I mean!
3: I like to travel too.
2: Your lips look so kissable … can I, maybe, perhaps, kiss them?
1: You are gorgeous can I lick your face?
Ya … OK!!! Out of the 60 or so responses, only about 5 made any reference to anything I wrote in my singles dating profile. I won’t even mention some of the disastrous profile pictures they had! C’mon people!! Put your best foot forward!! I have to admit, some of them did, but only a couple. It was quite disheartening. People complain about others not responding to them and having trouble meeting people online. Well start with how you respond to a profile! Make an effort!
Put Your Best Foot Forward
Here are some tips for good responses to singles online dating profiles …
- Always begin with a greeting: hello, how are you, I hope you’re having a good day
- Talk about something you liked about their profile: I liked your picture, I noticed you play tennis as a hobby how did you get into it, I find it interesting that you have travelled all over Asia
- Talk about something you have in common: As you’ll see in my profile I also enjoy wine tasting, I have travelled to Africa too what part did you like the best?
- Express interest: I would love to get to know you better, Hopefully we can chat about our common interests
- Finish with a nice closing: Looking forward to hearing from you, Hope you have a great day, Best of luck in your search
That, my friends, is how you respond to a singles online dating profile that you are interested in if you want to be taken seriously. Yes, it requires some effort, but the payoff will be much greater. I can almost guarantee it.
I shut down my profile after a few hours, singles online dating experiment complete … but, should I go back on and try try again?
Happy Dating!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
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