I was going to completely ignore the over discussed and often criticized topic that is 50 Shades of Grey by E. L. James. People are sick of hearing about it, frankly I kind of am too, but I am here writing about it regardless. Believe me when I say I debated it long and hard before finding something about the books worthy of writing about though.
I will admit to reading the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy. Yes, the writing is pretty bad and the BDSM “theme” pretty timid BUT it was still steamy. I’m not here to promote reading the book though (though I have to all my friends). I’m here to discuss what the book is doing for our culture right now. What I am excited about in regard to these books are the discussions about kinks* and bedroom activities it has sparked. Don’t misread that, I don’t want my mother or grandmother discussing how they relate to the books (cringe) but it has made the topic of sex all the rage and that I am all for.
I’ve seen more women on Facebook, twitter, and in real life talking about this book then I ever would have imagined. Women who previously sat uncomfortable and quiet during sexual discussions are jumping in and sharing their favorite Christian Grey sex scene. Women are making trips to the local sex shop or taking to the internet to order sex toys. Whether you like the book or not, this is FANTASTIC!
Being in touch with yourself sexually benefits everyone!
It’s not always easy to bring up the things you like in the bedroom that may be out of the “norm”. When women feel free to explore their sexual nature everyone benefits. Somehow this book has taken the shame out of people’s fantasies. If nothing else, the author deserves credit for making a book about kink a popular must read in all ladies book clubs.
At 31 I’ve never felt I had to hide my sexual desires, though I do require trust before I divulge my more “intense” bedroom preferences. I’m not most women though. Some women, not all but some, require permission and approval of their sexual “deviances” prior to being comfortable talking about them. When a phenomenon like this sweeps the nation and creates conversation opportunities I have to get excited about it.
I’m not the only one either, everyone is reading this book. Men are reading it, women are reading it, couples are reading it together, and I love it all. Is it true to the BDSM lifestyle? No. Is it incredibly well written and believable? Nope. Oddly enough as an avid reader and naughty story writer neither of these things bother me one single bit.
Sex Toy Sales Sky Rocket!
One sex toy company, Fun Factory, reported a 300% increase in sales of Ben-Wa Balls after they appeared in the book and general sex toy sales are booming right now. Who doesn’t benefit when people, male or female, are more in touch with their sexual nature, feel permission to explore all aspects of their sexuality, and are openly talking about what turns them on?
This may not be a literary masterpiece but in my opinion this is still a success if for no other reason than it has people thinking sexy thoughts. To those who are reading it, unashamed to explore their naughty side, and are enjoying an invigorated sex life because of it, I say kudos! To the women’s book clubs blushing and giggling their way through it and then planning sex toy parties, YOU GO GIRLS! And lastly, to all those men who used to scoff at women and their “slutty” books…you’re welcome.
*I don’t like terming things as “kinks” or implying that they aren’t acceptable or more than ‘vanilla’ as they’d say in the book. For me there is no right or wrong, good or bad, vanilla or kink when it comes to sex. Sex is sex and as long as both people consent and nobody gets hurt (that doesn’t want to) then I see no reason to term it as anything but what it is-a FUN time in the bedroom. For the purposes of this post though these terms were used and I hope they have not offended anyone.