Loneliness is a state of Mind
One of my co-workers who has been single for a while posted on his Facebook wall a while ago that:
As much as I want to to believe him, it’s hard to get over that feeling of loneliness that some times comes with being single, as much as I try to stay busy… loneliness some times finds it’s way into my thoughts.
There are days that I don’t mind being single, I don’t mind going and doing stuff by my self, like going to a movie or shopping or even going out for a drink. I have always been okay with being by my self and actually over all I have been pretty independent kind of girl. I actually lost some of that when I met my ex husband. I can tell you that going to the movies by my self for the first time in like 8 years was very scary for me and for a while I kind of felt like a looser, but I quickly got over that feeling and now to tell you the truth I love going to the movies by my self, at least I know that I will be able to see the movie I want to see!!
Is it really just a state of mind?
So is loneliness really a state of mind? Something that we can over come and even learn to get over?
Overall I am pretty accepting of being single and I know that I am a happier person compared to 3 years ago. But I am not going to deny that I do get lonely from time to time. I usually try to fill up my spare time with friends and some times family, some times picking up extra shifts at work, going to the gym.. stuff like that. But I find sitting at home or even when I am out and I see a couple flirting and having a good time, I do feel a little lonely and kind of wanting that kind of attention for my self. As much as I try to get past it, that loneliness is still there. So as much as I want to believe my co-worker that “Loneliness is only a state of mind”, I just can’t.
The feeling of loneliness is a part of life, we can try to keep busy and find other ways of trying to limit feeling lonely. But I think that accepting that I will be lonely from time to time is better then thinking that it is only a state of mind.. and I hope that all of you will too.