Last week, I updated my profile on a popular dating site. I sat back and waiting for the responses to come flooding in. Ok, maybe not. Maybe I started writing to people and then waiting for the responses to come flooding in.
I don’t usually write to the extremely hot, athletic guys because, who are we kidding here? I’m a curvy
woman who prefers fine wines and couch dates to running a marathon. So, I went to the place on the website that shows you guys who are looking for qualities that you have. One site calls it “reverse match.” I saw this one guy and he was older than me and balding. Not a very good looking guy, by any standards, but he had written that he was intellectual and a librarian! Librarians are sexy.
So, I wrote him a quick note to say hello and point out the qualities I admired in his post. I also said that he had a nice smile. (I didn’t mention anything about liking the shiny bald spot or bad shirt…I try to look beyond those things).
He wrote me back and said, “Thanks, but I’m not interested. Good luck in your search.”
And, being the diligent dating blogger that I am, I figured I’d ask him to elaborate. Granted, I knew he just may not be attracted to me. But I also wanted to know if there was something more I should be including in my profile. I wrote back to him and asked him why.
And his response was: “You live to far away and frankly, I don’t find you attractive.”
In one sense, good for him. He was honest. And I asked for it. But, in another sense, what a jerk! I told a couple of my friends about this exchange and they said he could have been gracious and left out the second part.
So, my question to you is, is silence golden? Would it have been better if he had just said nothing?
I’m now on the other side of the situation. There are two guys emailing me constantly online who I’m frankly not attracted to. Do I tell them?