Being a single parent and dating is not the easiest thing in the world to do, there are always questions you have to ask your self. But the big one is when do I introduce my kids to the person I am dating?
Well first off it should be when both of you feel comfortable. For me I have introduced my little men to a few different guys I have dated and all of them for different reasons.
The first guy I introduced to my little men was the first guy I really dated, my ex and I had been separated for almost a year when I started to date this guy. He was a really nice guy and one that I did like a lot, we had been dating for about 3 months when I though sure I could introduce him to my little guys. When the day came he came over to my place for dinner, I really felt that all went well until after he left. Neither of my little guys liked him at all.. they told me “he was no fun, all he did was sit on the couch with you mommy, he didn’t even play with us.”. With the fact that my little men did not like him and a few other issues that I could not get past (even though I tried) I ended up ending the relationship a couple of weeks later.
The second guy I introduced my little men to was a guy who I was dating who also had kids, and actually his youngest was the same age of my oldest. Because the fact both of us had kids we both introduced each other way too soon. I though that having the kids in common we could see each other more. This was a bad idea, even though my little guys did like this guy a lot. I found soon after starting to date him that he was not at all what I wanted. The boys were a little upset at me, but I told them “mommy has to like the guy too!”.
The third guy only my oldest little guy met and it was over lunch down town one afternoon. He too was a really great guy, but one I was really trying my hardest to like more then a friend. I enjoyed his company a lot, so I let my oldest meet him, he liked him over all. But in the end I did not feel anything more then friendship for this man.
So when is it the right time to introduce some one to your kids? I wish I had the answers, but as I said you and the person who you are dating should both feel comfortable and do not rush into it. But it is also a good idea to talk to your kids about it too, tell them about the person they are about to meet so that they are not all of a sudden surprised about the stranger who is standing in their living room trying to make friends with them. Having open communication is the best thing and talk about it after, was it too soon, is this really going to work? Hopefully in the end things will turn out great!! Happy dating!!