Or, what happens when you leave our love life up to a search engine.
This week in the PenMyProfile office we played what we like to call Google Advice Roulette. If we’re debating how to handle an issue, searching for a new description or looking for a little inspiration, we throw it out to the team.
With years of experience and knowledge to draw on, the collective minds of the group are always enough of a sounding board when someone is looking for the perfect line to bring out the best in someone that we’re writing a dating profile for.
But what happens if you don’t have someone to bounce ideas off? If you don’t have the PMP expert team ready and waiting to give their opinion and advice?
Well, most people turn to Google – or as we like to call it, the Advice Roulette. Google doesn’t rank advice by the site’s credentials. It doesn’t check that any opinions come from an expert, or indeed with any experience. It just ranks it by its special algorithms to do with how popular the site is and how well the site owner’s build and publicise it.
So, by clicking on the advice of search result numero uno, what are you letting yourself in for? We jumped into the fog and tested our theory all in the name of offering you chaps our advice. I know, I know; we’re too kind.
First up, we thought we’d take a look at advice on online dating after divorce – something that we ourselves have offered our thoughts on a few weeks ago here at the Singles Warehouse. A few general sites with clever keywords came top, and then one which proffered these pearls of wisdom:
1. Stay away from comments that make you sound resentful, cautious, depressed or emotionally wounded as a result of your recent divorce.
2. Don’t make comments like “Are there any knights in shining armor left?” or “Is every woman out there crazy?”
3. Mention that you’ve been divorced once, and move on. Don’t give elaborate details about how long you were married, or why you got divorced.
Which, we have to say is pretty sound advice. Well done Google!
Then we thought we’d tackle ‘funny ways to ask a girl out.’ – where our favourite advice came courtesy of ‘The Art of Manliness’:
“If you’re poking a woman you’re interested in on Facebook, you lose any credibility as a man.’
Brilliant, but not entirely useful.
So, what have we learnt from this wee (very wee, we must admit *avoids glares of research analyst people*) experiment? Google is a huge mine of information, especially on dating and relationships, but use that information as one voice among many. Speak to friends, family, experts like those here at Singles Warehouse and soak it all up – then act on it.
Because, just like we are reminded every time we start to write a new customer’s online dating profile, every dater is different and every dilemma deserves a different solution.