Sex matters for a successful relationship
Sex was the only interesting thing about him
We all know that sex, and sexual compatibility, are necessary for a successful relationship, but what if great nookie is all you have? Then what? Can hot, steamy, blow-your-mind sex carry a relationship or is it that just a wet dream?
I had met someone I wasn’t physically attracted to but an overall nice guy. After several dates, 
he made a move and I went for it. Most people have a sexual card down their pants and his was tantric! Having never been with someone who had lasted several hours {without the aid of the little blue pill} I was impressed…and exhausted! However, after a month or so it became clear that his moves in the sack were the only reason I went back. Sex was the only interesting thing about him. He wasn’t a bad guy, just boring. When the clothes were on, my mind shut off. We didn’t have much in common and when we weren’t having sex, time stood still…and not in a good way. At this point, you may be thinking, what’s the problem? The problem was the view; from his vantage point he saw ‘relationship’, from mine I saw ‘f*ck buddy’. I started to mull over the situation from his viewpoint. What did he see that I didn’t? Perhaps I filed him too quickly. Sweeping aside my initial thoughts, I opted to see if a relationship could bloom from sex. I was sincere in my endeavor and genuinely tried to take pleasure in his company. We spent more time together with our clothes on; hitting the town before rolling in the hay. After each date I checked for a sign; a little sprout of affection shooting up from my lukewarm feelings. Unfortunately, the only thing that grew was the weed of apathy. I just couldn’t do it any longer, the sex was good but not worth the effort. Plus in reality it wasn’t fair to him. The guy really liked me. His view of our relationship remained sunny and actually became rosier with each date. Furthermore, because of his feelings for me I knew that a casual sex relationship would never work. My experiment failed and the next step was clear; I had to break-up. While I drove home after giving him the bad news, I wrangled with the feeling of being a bitch for dumping an otherwise nice guy. Suddenly validation for my decision washed over me when the only sentiment I had post break-up was relief that it was over but damn I’m going to miss the sex!
Sex and sexual compatibility are requirements for a happy, sustainable relationship; otherwise, you’re just friends or roommates. However vital sex is, in no way is it a foundation you can build a relationship on. There is a point where you have to put your clothes on and actually talk to each other! It’s great to be with someone and it’s all about the nookie but don’t fool yourself into believing it’s a relationship, because it’s not. Sex is good, sex is great, but sex isn’t enough to make a relationship grow.
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