I have Unspoken Dating Rules in My Head
Reading through the back catalogue of my blog, I came to realise that I am an unspoken rule breaker. When I say unspoken, I mean literally unspoken – only in my head. The things that I’ve said – to myself – that I wouldn’t/shouldn’t do… (just to clear that up!)
1. Sex on the first date
KissingGroping someone you have no desire to see again
3. Taking guys to your local hang out
4. Not trusting your intuition
How Have I Done With My Unspoken Dating Rules
Number 1 – Guilty as charged
I’ve only actually done this once. As in a first date that turned into sex. (Not to be confused with a one night stand). This actually happened after my 2 year sex draught. It was a great night filled with,
sexy dancing, public displays of affection, Sheesha, red wine [don’t even like it] and nakedness. Oh and I almost forgot – the taxi ride of shame with ripped tights and bed hair. It was alcohol related, of course.
Number 2 – Guilty
This has happened on most of my dates. Alcohol related, of course. After a couple of bevvies I’m anyone’s! (Not completely true – revisit rule 1 – my standards, as must anyone’s, drop dramatically)
Number 3 – Guilty
This rule came after I took two guys to our local cocktail bar. They had never been before but decided that they should also frequent there after ignoring me – not cool and it makes awkward vibes. I, of course drag them there because it’s a cool place and I know the barmen. Alcohol related, of course.
Number 4 – Guilty
You should always trust your intuition when it comes to men or women. This is there for a reason – if something doesn’t feel right, don’t bloody do it. Not alcohol related but it could be.
I realised that drinking copious amounts of vodka, wine, beer, cider, basically any drink that as a percentage after it, on dates makes it a tad bit easier to break these ‘rules’. I lose sight of judgement once I’m over the threshold. I loosen up and have conversations that I can’t remember having, doing stupid things and remembering nothing.
Of course, dutch courage is allowed but you should know your limits. Imagine (if you haven’t done it already) waking up next to the person you told your friend earlier on in the night was a complete no-go… Scrambling around the next morning in an unknown location, picking up your bra, panties, tights and dress before tip toeing out – only for the dogs to start barking and the person you don’t want to see again waking up and asking you where you’re going, if you want to stay longer, asking for the chance of a second ‘date’. You; finding excuses, awkwardly declining, saying maybe.
What I am asking is, please, by all means consume that pretty cocktail or that golden pint of loveliness but remember – you could wake up next to them if you have one too many; which is bad if you started wearing beer goggles half way through your date…