Now, don’t get the wrong idea about me. I don’t just sleep with anyone I go out with. My downstairs don’t tingle in the presence of any testosterone. I have to really like someone, feel a connection with them—feel instantaneously comfortable with and excited by them. BUT, when that happens. I have a very hard time keeping my pants on.
The truth is, I don’t think there is anything wrong with sex on the first date, so long as you are not the type to get attached after sex, or so long as you genuinely feel that you and this person are on the same page. Either you both know something special is happening here, or you both know you’ll probably go your separate ways tomorrow, or you both know that, hey, sex is fun! This date has been fun! Let’s make it even more fun, and we’ll still hang out after.
I’ve slept with guys on the first date who I ended up dating for quite some time, or who became even more into me, meanwhile the sex sort of ruined it for me.
ALL that being said, if you’re dating a lot, you’re bound to a few times out of 10 dates have enough connection to bring you to bed with someone. And a few times out of ten starts to add up. And then you start to feel slutty, when you really didn’t mean to.
So, here are my tricks to keep that from happening.
1) DON’T shave. This one has kept me from having sex with someone I really just wanted to devour. Because, as much as resisting temptation hurt, having this person discover that I was an Amazonian woman downstairs would have hurt even more. (Full disclosure, another time this happened, I asked to use the shower, borrowed the poor guy’s razor, and went to town on my nether regions. Probably shouldn’t have told you that since now you have an out…”
2) Tell a friend you don’t want to have sex tonight. Have someone hold you accountable. If necessary, have that friend text you about two hours into your date asking, “Are you being a slut?” or “Your underwear better still be on” or something to that effect.
3) Make after date plans. Arrange to meet up with friends for a drink after your dinner. If you bail on them, at the last minute, just to bang somebody you’ve just met, you’re a major b*tch. And you don’t want to be that, do you? Oh, and no you CAN NOT invite your date to that event. That eradicates the whole point of this tactic.