We’ve all heard the phrase ‘It’s a man’s world’, but in the world of relationships could it be a different story? Yes, it’s been hard for the female sex since, oh I don’t know, the beginning of time. We were forced to live our lives under every law of repression mankind could think of, no careers, no proper education, not even a sexuality. We were told to be the submissive gender, encouraged to hide anything that could possibly tempt a man, or else get accused of bewitching them by some kind of devil magic (you guys have been known to think some silly things in the past, but, personally, I think this is a corker). In comparison to all this we have the lives of the male sex, the masculine protector, the hero, the earning worker who provides for his wife and children. There was nothing that couldn’t be solved – domestic or otherwise – without the use of his fists. As awful as it sounds, men have been encouraged through the centuries to follow this example, so masculinity could be preserved. (I may have studied Women Studies at University but don’t go thinking this is some fat, feminist rant, I know there’s a lot of pressure on men these days!)
It’s only been over the past forty to thirty years or so that changes to social gender values have taken a bit of a turn. We’re living in the new millenium now, women don’t necessarily want a man who will keep her at home doing the dishes, who gets violent every time another guy tries it on with his ‘property’, while never showing any other emotion than anger and horniness. Although horniness isn’t really an emotion, but never mind, you get my drift. Because oh my, men – not all, but most – have issues on a whole other level when it comes to not wanting to show their emotions. Honestly, I don’t get it. There’s nothing wrong with crying when you see a sad advert on T.V…
After decades of women being told what they cannot have it’s understandable we’re a little more picky about things we want today. At the top of that ‘want’ list, or somewhere near, is a man that has been mostly denied us in the past – honest, caring, sees women as his equal, and who is faithful and totally in touch with his emotions – and the sharing of them. Basically, heterosexual women are wanting lesbians trapped in a man’s body.
So, eventually getting back to my first point, it’s easy to see why men are feeling a tad confused these days. For so long they’ve been required to be to be the hero, but with more and more 21st Century women being their own hero, what’s happening to all these men that aren’t wanted anymore? More importantly, why aren’t they wanted?
Because of sex.
It took the female sexual revolution to push this world into a sex-happy zone, no more Victorian notion of doing it with your clothes on, while the woman lay there as silent as death. No, no. Sex is everywhere now, instead of encouraging women to cover up, we are now encouraged to cover less, to the point where men feel it their duty to shout ‘GET YOUR RAT OUT’ to girls in the middle of the street. Hey, I get it, for as long as we’ve been told to cover up, you’ve been denied the luxury of the female flesh in all its glory. And visa versa. We are powered by a nation run on sex. Desiring is is only natural, BOTH men and women are naturally prone to want it, and when we get it we want more. We want sex, sex, great big dollops of sex. You see, if women weren’t denied sexualities for so long I don’t think the relationship world would be in the mess it’s in today, the mess being –
Women are now quite happy having sex for sex sake, to selfishly please themselves the way men have been doing out in the open for so long. More and more women are feeling a lesser need to get themselves a boyfriend.
Like I said, women are getting pickier, when it comes to men especially. And as we know it’s more ok to have sex with men you don’t plan on marrying, we’re getting fussier with the sex we want, too. It would appear that men today are panicking their socks off. Constant sex is no longer on the reguarly menu, it’s up there on the specials board; more expensive and not always available. Most the guys I’ve met over the past few years are so desperate to be in a relationship they will stop at nothing to get one. Most the girls I’ve met are a lot more career than man driven, and know that Ann Summers is just round the corner if they’re in need of quick relief. Hey, if you want the job done right then do it yourself if quick relief is all you’re after.
A man’s greatest and most natural want is sex, and in the heterosexual side of things the only place they can get that is from a woman. So, naturally, in this case, men want women. And with the 21st Century world being more open to women’s needs and desires, does that mean we could be evolving into a world run by what women want purely because men want women? Who knows!
Peace and love from your Yorkshire Monkey x
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