As a woman, I can tell you that we can sometimes be complicated and yes, maybe a little crazy. Maybe even really crazy. However, we aren’t THAT hard to figure out. I promise! For the most part we just want a few basic things from you guys:
Pick up the phone
Please stop playing games and call us when you want to and not when you think you should (notice how I say ‘call’ and not text. While texting is great for certain situations,
a real man will call you). I know that I usually gauge a man’s interest level by how long it takes for him to call me, or at the very least email me, after a date. If his response time is lackluster, I usually write him off. I’m a rational girl and I know you’re a busy dude, but a quick call or a nice email doesn’t take long and will show me that you care – it’s all I really want to know.
I smell nice, right
For Gods sake, tell us we look good! I find myself having to remind my guy friends to tell their girls how beautiful they are. I’m not asking you to say I look “hot” but tell me I smell nice, or I look pretty or compliment my top. My ex only said I looked pretty a few times in over a year and I always made excuses for him. I know it sounds totally cliché but be a gentleman and compliment us every once and a while. Believe me, we’ll always appreciate it and you’ll end up reaping the benefits.
For me
It’s not necessary to do this all the time, but every once in a while just surprise us. It doesn’t have to be with any expensive gifts or trips. It can be something as simple as a home cooked meal or picking us up from work when we don’t expect it. Honestly, in my experience, little gestures are like foreplay…just not as fun.
I’ll just be over there
When you need a break or some time to yourself, just be honest. Some men tend to get distant and weird, which can start to make us crazy. Most of us are logical woman and are totally capable of understating that you need alone time. After all, we need it too.
It’s not you
If the relationship isn’t working for you, please respect us enough to break up face to face. Do not under any circumstances break up over the phone, text, do the “fade away” or email your soon-to-be former flame. Grow a pair for Gods sake! If you do any of these, you are a child and don’t deserve to be in a relationship with a real woman.
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Be our support system. You will never understand the importance of our men being supportive of our careers, hobbies or the occasional horrible taste in prime-time programming (ahem…cheesy reality show obsession). I promise if you put in a little effort to be there for your lady, she’ll do her best to support whatever sports team, artistic endeavor or musical taste you’re into.
When it comes to what women want from men, the little things really do matter. This list is not at all difficult or time-consuming but men often overlook them. Take the time to make us feel special, and she’ll do the same for you. After all, she is worth it and if you want to make her feel special, then you’re worth it too!
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